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So I am married to a man and just had the realization last October that I am bi. Part of me feels that if I were to come out to my family they would just ask why it was even important to share if I am already married. Like I made my pick and that’s all there is to it. But the other part of me feels like this has been hiding deep inside me for so long and I need to share it. Any suggestions or stories of coming out would be encouraging. This is the only space I currently am “out.”

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@Birdie I'm a straight guy married to a bi, gender fluid spouse. It took them 17 years of marriage to come out. We're still married four years later. So no advice, just an acknowledgement that you are not alone.

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@andy12 thank you for sharing! Has your spouse come out to any family? You can totally DM if that’s too personal.

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@Birdie Not too personal. Their family is agnostic. My spouse's teenaged rebellion was joining the church. My sister-in-law is now my brother-in-law, too, within the past two years. So there is no sense of shame on their side of the family.

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@andy12 @Birdie Hi Birdie, I'm also in a marriage where my spouse came out to me (she came out as transgender). We are happily together still. Always open to talk if you want, coming out to family is probably one of the scariest things we've done.

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