You, & you alone,are responsible for your growth & happiness.
Looking for a relationship to provide it for you, or blaming relationship for being a barrier to it, are flip sides of the same coin.
* important exception: a toxic or abusive rltnshp is, obviously, an actual barrier to health, growth, happiness. Talking here about “garden variety” rltnshps w “garden variety” dissatisfactions. Don’t blame those for unhappiness, & steer clear of others who do. 2/2
Wisdom: Be wary of anyone who says your relationship with them is either the source of, or the barrier to, their own happiness/personal growth * (see 2nd toot for important asterisk here). Similarly, be wary of that in yourself toward others.
That’s someone - don’t let it be you - who’s still putting the locus of control for their own life outside of them.
Rachel Held Evans as a writer and faith leader was wise, funny, generous, and thoughtful. In person, she was as gracious, welcoming, encouraging, and strong as you’d imagine. What a terrible loss for her family, and for so very, very many who looked to her words for wisdom, insight, courage, and hope. So very, very sad.
I don't know a lot about #RamDass. But I've been listening to Pete Holmes' podcast and he talks about him a lot. He was talking about this quote just now. It might be my new favorite.
Learn from a tree today. A tree does not have a false self which seeks to become something that it is not. It simply exists in its treeness, letting itself be swayed by the wind, basking in the sunlight. We have been given this gift of consciousness, but instead of using it to be our true selves, in unity with God, people, and all of creation, we seek to be anything other than what we were created to be. And it makes us miserable.
@emkem I’ve tried to shift my focus from “what should this say to me?” to “what does this say to me?” Right now the usual themes of eternal life, bodily resurrection, and defeat of death/sin are not to compelling. I am gravitating toward resurrection as metaphors for new life from what was dead and living in a way that brings life to others. A counselor once warned me about “shoulding” on myself. I am where I am in my spirituality and saying I “should” be somewhere else is not all that helpful.
Sick people should get medical treatment not because it's 'fair', but because they are sick.
Hungry people should be fed, not because 'fair', but because they're hungry.
Homeless people -> housing, same deal.
So, yeah, forgive student loans. And fix the loan system; it's rapacious.
Fix broken stuff. Relieve suffering. Don't get hung up on fair while others are bleeding out.
Sometimes, being strong for my mom in the face of my dad’s Alzheimer’s feels like more than I can bear. Today’s visit was definitely one of those times. And the person I used to be able to turn to for support & comfort isn’t someone I can turn to anymore. So here I am on mastodon, throwing myself a pity party in front of a bunch of strangers. Kind strangers, of course, but strangers nonetheless. 🙂😢 Much harder to comfort the hurt when the hurt is in the heart rather than the head. 💔
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