When we say ‘never again’, we don’t mean ‘never again a Holocaust’, or we do mean that, but we mean more. We mean never again the yellow stars, never again krystalnacht, never again the work camps. Never again the laws that single out a group for persecution out of fear and hate.
Because if you wait to say ‘never again’ until the cattle trains are rolling, you’ve waited too long.
Bible Belt Expectations?
I’ve been wanting to put this out there - has anyone who lives in the south or “Bible belt” experienced (as an adult) being treated differently or in a somewhat inferior manner for not expressing a goal of getting married super soon (esp. in the context of a heterosexual relationship/marriage)? I keep getting weird looks when I tell Christians that I’m not prioritizing (1st & foremost) dating and getting married in my life right now. I guess I’m a “weirdo” around here?
As I have let go of my own shame over the past year, including these beliefs about things like total depravity and the need for constant “accountability” for my “sins,” and have decided to spend my time in other ways besides going to their “accountability groups,” I have heard multiple people within this religious group tell me they believe I am “backsliding,“ and even not doing well emotionally/mentally. It’s actually quite fascinating and interesting to think about!
My definition of codependency within these posts includes, a prevailing belief that we are all born sinners, each “believer” has ongoing struggles with sins and unhealthy patterns, thus, we must consistently “hold each other accountable,” and go out of our ways (i.e. “sacrifice” for one another) on a daily and weekly basis to somehow help each other “grow.” I’ve actually heard these ideas and expectations communicated verbatim within this particular religious group.
Sidenote, I do regularly attend a supportive meditation group that I have been experiencing encouragement and healing in, particularly through mutual sharing and radical acceptance of each other, as many of us in the group have gone through some similar patterns of religious/spiritual trauma. Being a part of a group like this has helped me experience safety and acceptance, not contingent on a set of the same dogmas or ideas that each of us must adhere to.
Essentially, my body/feelings are telling me right now that there continues to be the threat of judgmentalism and some forms of verbal abuse if I continue to spend as much time around these people. It is complex though because I would say I still love and appreciate some things about them. All of this being said, does anyone have any advice, encouragement, and/or input?
I have seen, heard, and experienced messages coming from some of these friends alleging that I am somehow “in the wrong,” and not doing well. But, what I’ve really noticed is that over the past year, I have started to think and behave differently than them. I’ve noticed that the less I look like them, the more I see and experience messages of rejection. Anyways, I’ve been drawing on some really useful tools and exercises I formerly learned in my own therapy.
In a major sense, I have been slowly but surely “leaving the tribe” I used to be a part of and no longer believe the same ideas/dogmas espoused by my former community. However, it’s not so much that I have been trying to leave the tribe intentionally, but moreso that I have gone through a deconstruction while still maintaining those relationships, but just have been in many ways judged and/or shunned by those in the community over the past few months.
Hi all, I would like to get some feedback and advice if anyone can. I am currently going through a bit of deconstruction and forming some healthier, more balanced friendships and community relationships. However, I still feel like I am friends with people in a former religious-based group I used to be apart of, but I have really been sensing unhealthy (eg. codependent, somewhat manipulative) relationship dynamics being lived out/demonstrated by those individuals.
My dating life/conversations about LSD
Did I just walk into my favorite local bar/grille and give my phone number to the super attractive bartender? Why yes, I did. Have the majority of our conversations thus far mainly been about psychology, philosophy, neuroscience, and LSD? Why yes, that is also true. #livingmybestlife
Religious/spiritual thoughts #TheLiturgists
For anyone who can relate, I’ve gone through a sort of spiritual transformation over the past year. I have experienced more of a letting go of some rituals/routines that serve more to sustain a tribal Christianity-driven sense of belonging versus true radical acceptance, belonging, and love. What this has lead to for me is a more intentional, loving, fulfilling “less busy,” more balanced life, and a far less dualistic mindset.
Therapist/Clinical Social Worker. Lover of mystical Christianity, embodiment, meditation practices. I live in #LexingtonKY.
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