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introduction update, growing up Evangelical 

Just realized this introduction I posted when I first joined could use an update and a cw.

I'm definitely gonna leave the church and it's gonna be messy as I'm renting an apartment with two people from the church for the next year and can't get out of it.

I don't feel the need to hang on to the Christian label anymore. I still have some sense of spirituality, but it's very tainted by the churches I grew up in.

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Just because different groups experience *different* oppression doesn't mean one group gets to tell the other that they are not oppressed.

Plus a lot of the time, the people saying a group is not oppressed are part of the people oppressing them.

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Personal thoughts about relationships, pretty Ace 

I've realized I can't reliably separate romantic feelings from platonic ones and I think I'm okay with that. Until now I've been trying to label feelings as one or the other based on society's assumptions of me.

I don't necessarily want a romantic relationship, but I want a deep and committed relationship that is similar in importance to most people's romantic and sexual partnerships.

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Gender 

I think that describes my feelings well. I only have any strong feelings about gender because it's forced on me and on everyone.

If concepts of gender didn't exist, I would be perfectly happy. I am not connected to them at all.

So yeah, agender. Nonbinary. Gender non-conforming. All are me.

(I like enby as a term, but not feeling it strongly for myself right now. We'll see if that changes)

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@mike So if there are any other people here or people who think they might be I would love to connect with you and talk about it. I want to share this part of me with my friends and family but I just don't know how and I'm afraid they'll dismiss it and me

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Also the little graphic of the elephant pounding on the keyboard over and over with the error message is definitely me when any internet thing isn't working lol

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Don't forget to follow my new account @RadiantEmber and possibly accept my follow request if you haven't!

I'll be shifting over there

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I'm nonbinary, asexual, and really fucking queer, which is an issue because my entire family is super Evangelical. I'll definitely be posting angst about that, but I always make sure to CW those posts.

I recently chose the name Ember because I feel like it represents me very well. I've been burnt down and for a long time I felt like a single spark surrounded by darkness, but I'm still here and ready to flare up and burn shit down.

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#introductions

Hi, I'm Ember! I'm moving from social.theliturgists.com , and I'm excited to be at weirder.earth because I'm extremely weird and proud of it.

I'm currently in college studying anthropology, which is a good fit for me, because as an Autistic person I feel like I'm constantly studying people and trying to understand a culture that is foreign to me.

I also love languages and linguistics and I'm currently trying to learn French and Arabic.

Don't forget to follow my new account @RadiantEmber and possibly accept my follow request if you haven't!

I'll be shifting over there

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Hi friends, I'm moving to @RadiantEmber so feel free to send a follow request if you want to keep in touch!

I'm going to keep this account around as an archive and possibly to post about religion and deconstruction things, so feel free to keep following it or unfollow it, whatever you want.

I may also use it as a backup or something, who knows.

Hi friends, I'm moving to @RadiantEmber so feel free to send a follow request if you want to keep in touch!

I'm going to keep this account around as an archive and possibly to post about religion and deconstruction things, so feel free to keep following it or unfollow it, whatever you want.

I may also use it as a backup or something, who knows.

Ok I found it there, but still not sure where it is on Tusky

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Actually I can't even find it in the web version either

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Anyone know where I go to opt out of search engine indexing in Tusky?

Twitter 

I've thought about making an anonymous account, but honestly I don't use Twitter that much and I'm worried it would somehow be connected to me anyway.

Hopefully it won't be too long before I can just be real on my original one.

Actually though the username is just my legal name, so I guess I would probably change that anyway.

I don't hate that name, well sometimes I do. But I'd rather choose something else

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Twitter 

Omg y'all I forgot I actually did put the nonbinary flag colors in my Twitter bio as hearts. I mean there's not really a white one and I put a blue heart too, but I figure some people will pick up on it.

I just feel awkward following all these nonbinary queer autistic folks and looking so cishet on my page.

Like no I'm one of you, I promise!

And I can't put my fucking pronouns in my bio without lying and I don't wanna make people uncomfortable

Food 

Kinda wanna make Mac n cheese at 7am. That counts as breakfast right?

Also I should go to the store. I don't have a ton of food here

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hot take? / "testing transness" 

There probably are a variety of physiological or maybe even genetic factors which play some part in being trans. I think it is more likely that environmental factors also play a large role. Either way, why should it matter? Whether some fucking test can be devised for "transness" or not, why should you not just respect people as the gender they choose to present as and leave it at that?

The people trying to classify and test for this shit are doing the same thing that European colonialists did, creating a new classification system for dividing and conquering populations where it previously hadn't existed or cementing and reinforcing it if it did. Building the idea of race and the walls that would come with it.

Whether or not being trans is about physical factors of any kind, the people seeking to test that are only trying to divide us (separate trans people from cis people, dissolve solidarity). Whether they ultimately utilize real findings or fake it like the British in Africa doesn't matter, it isn't neutral science, it is an attack on a community.

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what gender is to me, testing transness or whatever 

Gender is freedom for me. It feels like one of the only parts of my life that I can control, and that I can wield any way I want to make myself happy. Telling me that I only feel that way because of chemical imbalances or something takes all of that away from me. Don’t take my autonomy away from me because you need outside validation.

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captcha: "select all the photos with tractors"
me: *selects all the photos with tractors*
captcha: "you didn't select every image with tractors try again"
me: "captcha. that is a fucking combine harvester. you're shit." 😒
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Re: last toot, I'd also add bisexuality and asexuality to the "we don't need science to prove we exist" pile, the studies I've heard of have been gross and invasive, how you find out if LGBTQ people exist is you ask people if they are LGBTQ and there you go, you found real LGBTQ people!

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Autism and ableism, biology 

@Laura_I isn't seeing that trans people and autistic people exist enough? Do we need to test cis and neurotypical people to see if they "actually exist"?

I study neuroscience/genetics and I know some very biological and even single gene (one of the most simple) causes for some varieties of autism and yet even then the symptoms are very different and vary individual to individual. There is no "simple biological cause" of autism because there can be many genes that interact and even some environmental influences.

I don't think it's a great idea to let neurotypicals decide what it means to be autistic either way. What are the genetic causes for being a neurotypical and how do we cure it? No one is asking that because it's seen as "normal".

The same goes for cis people trying to decide what it means to be trans. I don't care what's going on in my brain and I don't think me being trans is a physical brain difference necessarily, and that is fine.

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