Personal thoughts about relationships, pretty Ace 

I've realized I can't reliably separate romantic feelings from platonic ones and I think I'm okay with that. Until now I've been trying to label feelings as one or the other based on society's assumptions of me.

I don't necessarily want a romantic relationship, but I want a deep and committed relationship that is similar in importance to most people's romantic and sexual partnerships.

Personal thoughts about relationships, pretty Ace 

That's what I want. I want a partner. I want a family of my own creation, whatever that looks like for me.

I want someone to share life with and talk to and get to know deeply. I want someone who has similar interests to me and different interests so we can teach each other.

Gender doesn't really matter. Neither does number honestly. If I find two people like this or three or a whole community, that would be nice.

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I want fictive kinship. Not fictive because it's fake but fictive because we made it ourselves.

I want to be accepted as I am and know that I am not alone. To have someone to always talk. But also someone that I'm still close with if we don't talk for a while.

Personal thoughts about relationships, pretty Ace 

My mind has been running through all the worst possibilities for how my life could turn out, thinking through all the ways I could be rejected.

But last night I decided I would instead imagine the best possible outcome.

Some of it felt unrealistic, like certain family members and friends accepting certain parts of me, but this family is what I imagined.

The bond could be romantic, but it doesn't need to be

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Personal thoughts about relationships, pretty Ace 

And I want to foster kids or take in people in need of a home. I want to give them the love and respect they deserve.

I want to be a community that looks out for everyone. That is a safe place for anyone in need.

I finally allowed myself to dream of an ideal future, at least for myself, and I can see my desires more clearly now.

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Personal thoughts about relationships, pretty Ace 

And I don't really know how to find that or what society would think of it.

But for now I'll hold out hope. I'll hope for love, even if it's not the kind of love everyone thinks it should be.

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Personal thoughts about relationships, pretty Ace 

OH! I had heard about queerplatonic relationships before, but didn't know really what it meant.

That's what I want: a queerplatonic relationship

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From AVENwiki:

A queerplatonic (or quasiplatonic) relationship is a relationship that is not romantic but involves a close emotional connection (platonic) beyond what most people consider friendship. The commitment level in a queerplatonic relationship is often considered to be similar to that of a romantic relationship. People in a queerplatonic relationship may be of any romantic or sexual orientation. A partner in a queer platonic relationship is called a zucchini.

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Personal thoughts about relationships, pretty Ace 

@Laura_I this is a beautiful vision and I hope it becomes reality. 💙

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@Laura_I this is honestly amazing. I hope along with you for this.

Personal thoughts about relationships, pretty Ace 

@Laura_I Keep that hope alive. That thing you describe exists. I'm in a big complex sprawling polyamorous network that to me feels a lot like that. It doesn't magically fix everything, and it's got whole categories of problem that don't even exist in more conventional communities. But it can also be really damn good.

Personal thoughts about relationships, pretty Ace 

@Laura_I To be clear, I don't mean to suggest that yours has to look like mine. Maybe it does, or maybe it'll look totally different. I just mean something like that is definitely possible. It's possible because it exists.

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That's cool. I have a friend whom I love deeply. I'd say we fit this but are both married and our respective wives are deep friends also. We are a couples' couple kind of deal. Our kids also were born very close together. It's very nice. Except we live 5hrs away now :(

@Laura_I Whoa! I think this might describe my relationship with my girlfriend's husband 😮 I've been looking for a good term for this, thank you!!

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@Laura_I @RadiantEmber wow. Thanks for putting my thoughts into words for me! This sounds like exactly the sort of relationship(s)/family I'd love to have. ❤😁

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@Laura_I @RadiantEmber I mean, I'm not really Ace, maaybe leaning towards demisexual, but that aside, this sounds absolutely perfect!

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@nat @Laura_I The reason I put Ace originally was to include the whole spectrum, the asexual and aromantic spectrums, so yeah! But also yeah it's not just limited to those people either

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@RadiantEmber @Laura_I you favorited my replies twice. I'm honored! 😄

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@nat @Laura_I hehe well you tagged me in both places which was nice

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