Things I'd like to say about love:
-Love has far fewer rules than our current societal norms will tell you.
-Love your friends without shame. Platonically, romantically, it's all beautiful.
-If monogamy isn't working for you, there are so many ways to experience love. If it is working for you, great, I don't judge.
-Relationships exist on a spectrum and I don't think there's any real solid divide between "friend" and "lover" that isn't just an arbitrary invention of our culture.
Oh man @mike was in the hospital with a heart condition! He is doing better, but still has work to do. Please do what ever you do - good vibes, prayers, warm fuzzies - he'll take them all.
"One of the things I feel like I’m often trying to do is to debunk the idea that you have to be a full-time activist in order to be doing anything for the world." - adrienne maree brown on her new book Pleasure Activism
9)the Sunday years after feeling broken and battered by music when I asked my pastor if could maybe help with worship sometime and he said, "Everyone bailed on me today. Here's a mic."
10)two weeks ago when my friends made the last-minute decision to do a coffee shop open mic. I wasn't perfect, it's nothing to brag about, but I was more myself than any performance before
6)my sense of trust and safety crumbling to dust when a music teacher made a pass at me and said I "owed" him for all the great roles and solos
7)the open mic in college when jazz instrumentalists *asked* me to sing with them
8)the day I truly understood that I was seriously ill because I missed an audition for my dream role.
1)tagging along to Dad's church choir rehearsal as a preschooler
2)recording the Tony's on VHS
3)making up songs in my Jr. High friend's basement that we'd never write down
4)going to music camp and feeling, for perhaps the first time, that I belonged.
5)that magic feeling in choir or band when everyone breathes in unison
My music Prof. friend made a FB post asking for the ten musical experiences that shaped you.
I started remembering belt-notch moments: my first musical, that time I performed for 30,000 people *cough*... But honestly, the moments that "shaped" me are small, and not all good.
My list is in the comments.
@Reina i recently went trough my poetry archive, and I was surprised how many poems mention or deal with guilt or shame. Certainly think that's related to my religious upbringing. Everything good I did, wasn't my doing, but praise God. Everything bad, wasn't Gods fault but mine, and I should pray for forgiveness. Hard to build a healthy selfesteem inside of that.
Dear kids in Washington State: you can make an appointment with your doctor, or walk into a clinic or ER, and get vaccinated. You don't need permission from your parents. You don't have to wait until you are 18. If the health care provider gets confused, the magic phrase is "Mature Minor Doctrine", and point out that not wanting to catch measles is sign of sufficient maturity.
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I helped my friends at the birth of their first child yesterday. It was amazing. And it proceeded more or less as planned. I am filled with joy for them! But this also made me mourn my own birth experience which was filled with fear and uncertainty due to complications. Nothing really to share or request, except that I thought a lot about One Wild Life: Birth during the day. It seemed perfect.
Stop your scroll
Release the tension in your jaw
Take 3 deep breaths, paying attention to ever second. in and out.
Ask your body "what do you need right now?"
Give it space and silence to respond
Ask your heart "what do you need right now?"
Give it space and silence to respond
Take the answers seriously and honor them as best you can.
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