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Parenting during tantrums 

We have been doing this “Gentle Parenting” thing for most of our kid’s lives and sometimes it’s just awful. And I just want to throw something at a wall. And yell. And discipline like my parents did.

But then my kid melts into my arms after a violent tantrum saying “I just need you to hold me right now” and I know it’s working.

Just thoughts after coming down from an especially tough evening.

Parenting during tantrums 

@Megra3 The struggle is real, partly because my parents didn't nurture emotional intelligence in me. I feel like I could help Luna better if it was modeled for and taught to me from an early age, ya know?

Parenting during tantrums 

@LiveYourValues also I read in the book “Connection Parenting” about how it’s hard to silence those “tapes” that play in our heads from our own childhoods. Sometimes I find myself saying the same things my parents said without even thinking.

Parenting during tantrums 

@Megra3 you’re not alone!

Parenting during tantrums 

@Megra3 I would love to hear more about gentle parenting!! Not a parent yet, but planning on this when I have kids.

Parenting during tantrums 

@Reina We kind of take methods from all over the place to be honest, but we try to take a more gentle and positive approach to parenting by focusing on connecting with our kids, keeping our own emotions and mental health in check, and helping them learn to deal with their own emotions

I try not to live my life strictly by a book (because I'm a 4 and I'm a unique human dammit), but I do like the books "Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids" and "Connection Parenting."

Parenting during tantrums 

@Megra3 I love that! As a fellow 4, I can relate. Thank you so much for the book recommendations!!

Parenting during tantrums 

@Megra3 It’s so helpful to get the reassurance that it’s really working for your kid!

Parenting during tantrums 

@Megra3 it's soooo haaaard! High-fiving you.

Parenting during tantrums 

@Megra3 I have more days like this than not. So many times repeating “that must be so frustrating” and “those are big feelings.” I do think it’s working. But wow, is it ever hard, and all-consuming.

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