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Been thinking about love lately, specifically as it relates to the idea of "impact always trumps intent." I could claim I'm acting or speaking out of love, but if my actions or words aren't received as love, well then they aren't actually loving are they.

@Rachael Coming from a place of nondualism, I can see how this can be powerfully true and yet in some ways also not true. I think that as much as we should consider our words' and actions' impact, on the other side we should also be loving enough to receive well-intentioned action/words and understand their intentions were good. In other words, maybe this statement is wonderfully true and important on the giving end, but not something to promote if we're on the other end? Am I making sense?

@Kaitlyn1994 Yes, that makes absolute sense and I agree it should be considered when we're on the receiving end. Thank you for sharing that.

@Rachael This reminds me of the Platinum Rule: Do unto others as they would have you do unto them.

@andy12 @Rachael
Yeah, I look at it as a weird game of metaphysical telephone. Our intent goes through our filter to become our actions, our actions go through a societal filter to become what they receive, and what they receive goes through their filter to become what they experience. There can be a breakdown anywhere in there even when everyone is trying.

@Rachael This makes me wonder about interpretation. If my natural expression of love is on a different channel than the receivers, could it still not be considered loving?

@jherb I think it could, for sure. Some people would probably be content to know that your intent was loving and either put up with it or adapt (for lack of a better word). Other times it might be such an incompatibility that it requires you to adapt. I think it probably also depends on the relationship and how important it is to each of you, because that will determine how much energy you're each willing to put in to make it work.

@Rachael i've been thinking lately about love as openness to repair hurt caused or suffered.

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