@Magicalmilly It's dear to my heart. It's one of only a few books I've re-read multiple times. In fact, I think it's about time I read it again!

Depression 

@JosiahRA I'm not sure, but thank you for asking.

The doctor suggested therapy and lifestyle changes (exercise, I guess, I don't think she mentioned anything else) and to come back in two weeks. She didn't want to prescribe anything with it being my first visit with her. I can appreciate that. But the cost of therapy's not covered since I'm not working, and I'm not sure I can pay out of pocket since, you know, I'm not working. So I'm left feeling stuck. Taking it one day at time.

Depression 

I left my job a month ago. I'm a stay at home parent for the time being. I miss working. I miss being away from my house (and family, if I'm allowed to say that). I am terrified I'm going to get trapped in this role. I worry that by letting go of my work, I've given up ground somehow. That I'll have to fight twice as hard to get it back. I cry every day. I'm functioning, but sometimes just barely. I'm seeing my doctor on Monday to talk about my mental health. Wish me luck.

@jherb I think it could, for sure. Some people would probably be content to know that your intent was loving and either put up with it or adapt (for lack of a better word). Other times it might be such an incompatibility that it requires you to adapt. I think it probably also depends on the relationship and how important it is to each of you, because that will determine how much energy you're each willing to put in to make it work.

@Kaitlyn1994 Yes, that makes absolute sense and I agree it should be considered when we're on the receiving end. Thank you for sharing that.

Been thinking about love lately, specifically as it relates to the idea of "impact always trumps intent." I could claim I'm acting or speaking out of love, but if my actions or words aren't received as love, well then they aren't actually loving are they.

Anxiety in kids 

@Ricci Thank you. What you said about giving your son the language, that's the kind of thing I think I need to explore. It's so new to me, I need to build my toolbox, so to speak, so I can pass it on to him.

Anxiety in kids 

@mamaria Thank you! We talked about this bee fear and his anxiety in general. She's going to talk to the school counsellor and get back to me. A friend suggested watching videos and/or reading books about bees, which my son seemed very into doing, so we'll see if we can turn that fear into curiosity. :) I haven't heard of any classes, but we do have a Honeybee center down the road from us - I should check if they give tours or classes. Thanks for the suggestion.

Anxiety in kids 

@hope Thank you. I'm thinking about your response, and you're right - a kid or even a teacher could have said something about how the bees are out now and that's where this is coming from. I will ask him tomorrow morning before school and then ask the teacher if there was some sort of announcement or innocent comment she knows of. I can tell he's quite stressed about it all, but it's always best to gather lots of information too.

Anxiety in kids 

@hope Definitely a possibility. His anxiety (around school drop-off especially) has been slowing increasing in frequency and intensity since January. This is just the latest fixation, iykwim. We had such a good spring break. Sigh. Whatever it is, it feels big, but that could just be because it's new to me as parent. My mom sensing are just tingling on this one for some reason. (And I'm a verbal/external processor... haha). <3 Thanks for replying.

Anxiety in kids 

My 5 yo is suddenly afraid of bees. Everything is in bloom here, so the bugs and bees are out. But it's not lost on me that this new fear started the same day that they had to back to school after spring break. Something is going on with him, deeper than this new fear of bees. Just processing this I guess. Wish me luck as I talk to his teacher tomorrow. This is all new territory for me as a parent.

Gender expression 

@Jes That's how I've been intervening too - checking with them, only saying something if they want me to. My oldest is 7 and it doesn't seem to faze him at all if he's called a girl. My 5 yo HATES it, so I speak up for him a lot. The 3 yo couldn't care less, he has a clear gender identity himself, but he still mixes up other people's pronouns all the time, so I don't think it really matters to him much right now.

Gender expression 

@Jes Interesting! Thank you for replying.

Gender expression 

@Laura_I I'm sorry your mom does that. My kids are only 7, 5, and 3, but the 5 yo is already experiencing bullying (hate to use that word flippantly, but in this case it sounds like purposeful, repeated misgendering, so I don't mind using it). I can't imagine what middle school will be like for him. I just want him to wear whatever he wants to wear, because he wants to wear it. I hate that he's already changing how he dresses because of what he's experienced in Kindergarten.

@zfrazier Sounds like he was pretty certain he has it all figured out.

Gender expression 

Hi, fellow parents of gender creative/GNC kids. I've noticed that all it takes for one of my sons to get misgendered is for him to have ONE feminine coded things about him. Long curly hair, grey leggings, pink shoes, purple bike helmet. Seems all it takes to be "masculine" is a complete lack of anything "feminine." I only have boys, so I'm only coming at it from the one perspective. Curious what other parents have noticed about how and when their kids get misgendered.

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