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Enneagram 4s out there who create—how do you detach your identity from your creation enough to risk receiving negative feedback on your work?

@Tori

For me it's about focusing on the objective purpose of the work. What do I want to say and am I saying it effectively. Is the negative feedback because my idea is not clear, or do I need to work on my skill level so I can make the thing I want to make? Embracing the process from the perspective of growth makes it easier to let go of ego.

A saying I love: "The singer is for the song, not the song for the singer."

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This ‘Enneathought’ highlights that growth direction for 4s. Action and objectivity focused, which can be hard for us.

@Tori I can only do that if what I create is not perfect. So that’s most things. 😳 Also listening to anything Michael Gungor says helps. @vishu ❤️

@Tori overdeveloped 4 wing here,
& I don’t know how to detach from it - it’s an expression of me/my thoughts/feelings, & criticism of that feels personal. it comes with the territory, & to get that kind of feedback, you have to put yourself out there anyway. I think it’s okay if the feedback hurts, but it’s not okay if the feedback makes you want to be less authentic in your art. Like, having a solid & unwavering identity in the first place is more important than protecting your sensitivity.

@skerz yeah I relate to this. You’re right, if I have a solid identity then putting out art and getting negative feedback would not be fatal

@Tori definitely can still hurt....and probably will....but I like that language. it will not be fatal

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