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Coming out, asking for prayers/good thoughts 

Hey litfam, think of/pray for me? I will likely come out to my parents as trans tomorrow (Saturday). The pros now outweigh the cons. I’m as prepared as possible, but the possible negative consequences are still enormous.

My family’s discomfort with sexuality cannot be overstated. It’s off the bell curve, even compared to purity culture. At the same time, they’ve been growing in openness/compassion and are kind. It’s impossible to know what to expect.

Coming out, asking for prayers/good thoughts 

@Tstan keeping you in my thoughts. Reaching the point where you can be free and open is so exciting. I truly hope things go well!

Coming out, asking for prayers/good thoughts 

@Tstan
I'll be thinking about you. Hope it goes well. 💚

Coming out, asking for prayers/good thoughts 

@Tstan ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

Coming out, asking for prayers/good thoughts 

@Tstan sending you so much love and courage. You are beautiful and beloved.

Coming out, asking for prayers/good thoughts 

@Tstan How did it go? Have been thinking about you.

Coming out as trans, positive update 

@ValR thanks for checking in. ❤️

It actually went better than I even hoped. I was prepared for just about anything, but my parents responded by emphasizing their love for me and not bringing up theological objections. I’m still in shock but overwhelmed with gratitude. I feel like I gained the mother I never had but always aches for. My mom does everything at 100%, and she is 100% about supporting me and using my chosen name/gendering me correctly.

Coming out as trans, positive update 

@ValR My dad tends to be less affectionate and open to change, but he responded by saying that he loves me.

Since then, they’ve both been grieving a lot. My mom hasn’t put that on me. I’m sure it’s unintentional, but my dad has communicated that he’s feeling 10/10 level traumatized and also anxious about controlling the details of when I come out to my youngest (18yo) sister.

There’s some things to navigate, but I’m unbelievably relieved at how it went.

Coming out as trans, positive update 

@Tstan Huge exhale!! I am so so glad they are emphasizing love. I'm sure there is still a lot to grapple with but I am so glad for the positive beginning.

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