Where my #enneagram1 s at?
What's most challenging about being a 1?
Any #enneagram1 s found strategies for curbing the perfectionism/do-more-do-better drive, while also releasing self from the guilt/constant critic nagging at you that you're not doing what you should be?
I can force myself to take a night off, for example, but it always includes the phantom "shoulds" hanging around....
Is this the invisible, endless, mental labor of wife-and-mother-hood? Is this a 1 thing? Both?
@laurel_ann and I guess the "trick" I like to use alongside that sort of thing is to make "rules" out of these principles, since lists and "rules" are the mental structures that feel natural to me as a 1. e.g. I know "everyone makes mistakes" and then hijack my inner critic for good to enforce that same hard principle with myself... I don't know, it seems to work pretty well for my brain at least :)
@laurel_ann also I definitely think part of the "feeling like I should be doing something" is just part of being a parent :)
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