race, Dunbar's number 

How do you "intentionally" cultivate relationships with others who are not like you without making people into means to an end (the end in this case being a more diverse friend group)?

race, Dunbar's number (2) 

I know that all 30 or so of our family's closest relationships are with other white families. There are a couple of families who have one Asian or Indian parent, but not a lot of real diversity. Circling all the way out to 150 people, most of the PoC I encounter are my Girl Scouts. There are a few moms that I know and like but I do not want to objectify them by pursuing relationship where it has not formed naturally.


race, Dunbar's number (3) 

I believe that systematic racism is reinforced by social isolation and echo chamber effects.I want to break out of these harmful patterns. But I also value authenticity, and I would never want to make someone my "token black friend" - that is so dehumanizing to them. Have any of you managed to successfully expand your social group to include people who are not like you? how did you do it?

race, Dunbar's number (3) 

@brandice good on you for noticing this and wanting to make a change. All relationships need to start somewhere and being intentional about branching out doesn’t have to feel fake. Girl Scouts seems a good place to start. Finding a way to connect with folks who are new to town is also an option. I find it’s harder to make friends with people who already have an entrenched local social structure. Good luck!

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