@equustel I get that. A couple of concepts have helped me.
1) Everything in life is a Cha-Cha. It's always two steps forward and one step back (I'm actually not sure if that is what a cha-cha is) - it's the nature of the universe - and there's nothing "wrong" with it.
2) "Hard" is not the same as "Bad." "Hard" is just "Hard."
Hang in there!
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