2/ It’s just... I don’t think I want to be a 9. Even though I’ve always seen myself as a peacemaker. Especially within in my family growing up. It’s just that when I see other people who are confident in their nineness I just can’t relate. 9s don’t make sense to me.
4/ I need help. How do I accept my 9ness? It seems like there are so many confident 9s here on mastodon. I want to do this right (1 wing 😉), meaning if I accept my 9ness I want to be a healthy 9. Also, why was it so much easier to identify my subtype? Now I feel I relate so much to 1s even though I never felt that way before I read up on 9w1 vs 9w8.
5/ Also, my older brother, who I work for, self identifies as a 9. When he talks about it, I can see it. But I don’t want to be the same as him. I want to be my own person. How do I distinguish myself from him? I’ve always melted into his personality, goals, and passions when working together, even as kids. But can a 9 do that with another 9? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@kbitgood Hi Kenny! 1w2 here, married to a 9w1. I think the fact that you don't want to be a 9 is actually a good indication that's what you are. But not all 9s are exactly the same. Ian Cron says it like, each number is a different color and each 9 is a different shade of their color. Similar, but not the same. Ultimately the goal is to let go of our coping mechanisms. To integrate and be well rounded, exhibiting the positive traits of all types. 9s tend to avoid conflict at all cost.
@kbitgood So that could be why you copy your older brother. But with the awareness and some growth you can learn to be confident in your own strengths and follow your interests.
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