@LiveYourValues We finally gave in and messaged xem about our feelings of abandonment and made it quite clear that we would respect a decision of stepping back from our friendship. Our age difference had always caused us to have a bit of an older sibling relationship. So, moving on to focus on xyr own friends was completely ok.
@LiveYourValues Xyr response was completely different than what we expected. Xe had shame/indebtedness from financial help we had provided in the past and had kind of been too embarrassed to reach out.
@LiveYourValues Best advice I can give is to communicate your pain and hurt and willingness to allow for your friend to have a grace-filled exit from your life.
Our relationship ended up re-knitting after that conversation but if it hadn’t, we would have had much closure from having made our feelings known and given explicit permission to let things go.
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