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Relationships, enneagram, mention of concept of trauma, a question??? 

Heyo. Is it an enneagram 5 thing to not be able to verbally tell friends/family/significant others that you love them or like... trauma and past relationship/weird family dynamics???
Or like... should I just bring this up in counseling tomorrow...

Relationships, enneagram, mention of concept of trauma, a question??? 

@winter The latter. I think you already decided this. I don't think anybody every declared that being of "Enneagram number X" (or "astrological sign Y" or "number of letters in your last name Z") forced you to do or think anything specific; at best, it's a way to try to undersstand what you DO do or think. Your instinct to talk to your counselor sounds like a good idea. But only you can decide that, of course. Blessings & best.

Relationships, enneagram, mention of concept of trauma, a question??? 

@nonnatus I agree with some of your points. Right now I’m just seeing if it’s a common theme with groups of people. It’s helpful for me to relate my experiences to others while I’m observing them 😊

Relationships, enneagram, mention of concept of trauma, a question??? 

@winter All of the above.

Relationships, enneagram, mention of concept of trauma, a question??? 

@winter I think it depends on the person and situation. I'm pretty sure I've known both non-5s who struggle with this, and 5s who don't. Trauma and relationship/family dynamics are enough to make expressing love verbally hard for anyone, but it sounds like it might be something a 5 would be more likely to struggle with perhaps?

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